He had a daughter who reached marriagable age and was presented with a shidduch with a bachur (yeshiva student) from Ponevezh, and he wanted to investigate this bachur.

He started to ask the Rosh Yeshiva some questions. 1) How many hours a day does the bachur learn? 2) Does he follow the study schedule of the yeshiva? 3) Does he attend the prayer services of the yeshiva? 4) Does he participate in the shiurim (classes) 5) Does he understand well the sugyos (talmudic discourses)?

After receiving his answers, which calmed him, he thanked the Rosh Yeshiva and stood up to leave.

Rabbi Shmuel stopped him and said to him: "Please permit me to also ask you a few questions. I see from you that you are content with the answers you received from me because apparently you believe that this is all that your daughter needs to know. (what time he gets to class, does he understand the sugyos, etc.) However, I think that your daughter would be very interested to know if this bachur is a 'human being' (ben adam)!"

"It would have been fitting if you had asked me", continued Rabbi Shmuel, "Are his clothes clean and his teeth brushed, and is it pleasant to sit next to him?..And how does he behave in the dining room? Does he get there first to take the biggest portion or does he continue to learn and comes at the end to eat from what's left? ..And what happens if the water jug on the table is empty and needs to be filled? Is he the one who runs to the kitchen to fill it or does he sit "patiently" and wait until someone else does it? Does he enter the kitchen sometimes to thank the workers for their efforts? And what does he do when the food is not sweet to his palate? Does he eat it anyway and then go to the kitchen to thank the cook or this day he doesn't eat and heads to the local "kiosk" (store) to buy sweets?"

"You've reached the conclusion that he is a shakdan (studious), maybe you should clarify how he behaves when he finishes his learning late night and his friends are already sleeping. Does he enter very quietly so as not to awaken his roomates, or does he enter with a loud noise...And in the morning does he make his bed or does he leave his room a mess from the beginning of the term (zman) until the end."

"I think", said Rabbi Shmuel, "that these things would very much interest your daughter. Because if this spoiled person, who doesn't think about his surroundings, would come in the afternoon from the kollel to his home and she would have worked hard in his honor to prepare for him a meal, and he sat to eat but the food is not exactly what he thought he deserves, and then he would blast open his mouth, etc., would your daughter then be consoled by the words which Rabbi Rozovsky told her father before they were matched that he is very studious and he understands well the depths of the logic in the sugyos in (the talmudic) tractate 'Bava Basra', and the commentaries of 'ktzos hachoshen' and Rabbi Akiva Eiger?